After my divorce, I can't imagine loving someone or being loved. Does that go away?

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Answer: This is one of the hardest things in life is when you love someone and them not loving you back. Then you find out they fell out of love for you and now have moved out and they are with someone else.

The thing now to remember is if that person has done this with you don’t you think they will do it to that person too. Now that they have done it once they will do it again once they get tired of the one they are with they will find someone else and then move out and say with them and so on.

Now that you have got rid of that person out of your life for it seems like they would never be faithful and maybe never has. Now the problem is they have left an impression on you and now the thought of them being there all the time and someone to talk to is gone you miss there presence not them. But you really do not miss that person but you miss what they have left behind in your mind of what they have done and even who they were and what they did with you and without you.

The thing is you will never really get over the impression that they left behind you just have to know the difference of the impression of them and the relationship you had with them once it was over. Once the trust is gone so is the friendship you had with each other. For when someone lies to you and does things that hurt you and then leaves you is no friend that you will want to have in your life.

If you had known what you know now you would have not got married you would have left him in the first place. The bad thing is you find out these years later when you have been together for some time. And even had children with. The problem we have is once we get to be with someone and get to know them a little and then it seems that once you have been with them for a little while you fall in love with them. Before you become real good friends and really get to know them you get married and then by the time you realize what you have done it might be 2 years later and have one child. Back when Jesus was young, that is the only way I explain how long ago this is: they used to date for 2 years before they could get married and then have sx for the first time. The thing is once you have sx the friendship turns into married life even if you are not marred. So then you start to do things that husband and wife would do and even get marred but you did not solve the problem of becoming really good friends first you went from dating for 3 or 4 months and got married. Not enough time to really get to become friends first. Now the problem that you are is because you did not become real good friends and really get to know them and once you did have sx and then get marred you still did not really know them and become real good friends. Even after you do get married and never had a date night at least 3 times a week and spent as much time together as you can even after you have children. Get a baby sitter and go out just the two of you and just sit and talk and do something together away from home. The only way you will stay friends is if you spend as much to doing things together. Anything around the house and even bed time is what you do in any marriage. When you got out on a date night you will go out with your friend and do things with each other. Even if it go out and eat and sit and talk. Now here comes the blame, it is up to you to provide the best spouse to have children with and to help raise the children. If you think you have found the right one and jumped in too soon and really did not get to know them real well and the only way to do this is to spend all the time you can with them. So this way you will learn about their ways and what they do from day to day. It is up to you to find out all that before you make up your mind about the person you are with that will be your friend first and then your spouse.

Now for your question: the impression never really goes away because everything you did with each other has left memories and some is good and some is not so good. The main thing is when you do find someone else make sure you become friends first and to stay friends have date night and then sx and marriage. Then the main thing is to talk about new love never of old love. For no one wants to hear about what happened in the past for the only thing now is what happens in the future of you both. So remember talk about new love never of old love. In time you will find that person and this time things will be different for now you have the knowledge to make your marriage last. Then you also can teach your children and your new spouse what is to be done for any friendship to last is to do many things with each other away from the home.

Now for something everyone should know:

For God to take care of us we have to live within God himself and with this in mind we now know that we life within God himself and once saved God will live within us.